Natasha Pelati has published three books of poetry and writes on real-life practices with the help of psychology.
Thomas Jefferson quoted, “He who permits himself to a lie merienda,finds it much lighter to do it a 2nd and third time til at length it becomes habitual.”
Lounging is like a disease and it spreads like wildfire merienda a person starts getting used to doing it!Some people lie compulsively and they tell so many lies that they can’t tell the truth anymore. They also don’t realise that their lies are hurtful to the ones that they love and the more they lie the fatter it gets.
Merienda you have found that your loved one has liedje to you it takes away the trust that you had for that person and you wonder if the lie is the only thing that they have done, especially when they have bot caught lounging and deny it.
Getting them to admit to lounging is a challenge but it can be done!
How to Tell if they are Lounging
You have to be sure that someone has liedje to you before you treatment them.
Witness to see if they are fidgeting and sweating.
Liars usually leave out significant details, so ask for more information and they will soon slip up on details.
Failure to make eye voeling is also a sign of deception.
Look for dilated pupils and a switch te their tone of voice.
If asked to repeat the story, the details are always different.
Someone that says “my oath, I swear, to be fair,” is usually attempting to coax you that they are telling you the truth when they are actually bringing your attention to the fact that they are lounging to you.
Liars are defensive!
Approaching a Enrollar
If a woman is asking you about something it usually means she already knows the reaction and is just reconfirming what she has heard or seen.
Ter order to get the response you are looking for you have to treatment your playmate or friend ter a non- defensive way. If you rush overheen and treatment them ter the wrong way they will automatically deny it.
Don’t ask them if they have liedje to you but ask them what made them lie. The chances of them admitting to it are snugger to none and they will very likely say that they never liedje. The words “I promise, on my. life” will come up and listen out for the switch te tone.
Know the Facts
Before you can get them to admit to a lie you need to know the facts so get some investigative work going ter order to find the truth. Collect evidence.
Merienda you have found your truth and you are one hundred procent sure that you have bot liedje to then you can now work on your treatment.
Keep peaceful! Do not go te “guns a blazin” and display any anger.
Don’t fold your arms and keep your voice level natural.
The very first thing that you have to say is, “I know that you liedje to mij and I am so disappointed. I would just like to know why you did it?”
They will deny it and you will be coerced to listen to a fairy tale of promises and oaths.
When that is done you can then tell them that you are aware of the lie and then produce your evidence or facts.
Merienda you have done that you can then tell them that you feel betrayed and would appreciate the truth. You say nothing else and walk away providing them time to reflect.
The truth will either come out of their throats or they will proceed to lie but with your treatment if that person truly loves or cares for you, they will come clean.
Accept the truth and hopefully an apology but don’t expect it not to toebijten again because if someone you love finds it effortless to lie to you and deny it than. honey, it ain’t for you!