The best dating profile I everzwijn read.
Matchmakers read thousands of profiles, and it&rsquo,s a existente challenge to get yours to stand out. It&rsquo,s also difficult to differentiate your unique traits from the multitude of those searching for their soul mates on dating websites.
Let&rsquo,s examine the following actual dating profile (it&rsquo,s from an awesome human being who talent mij permission to feature hier profile, and yes, she is available). I have not met hier te person, ter fact I toevluchthaven&rsquo,t spoken with hier yet. However, from hier profile I have a clear picture of who she is and what she is looking for. I want to point out a few key points that make hier profile a success.
Overall, the most significant thing hier profile gets across is that she clearly knows herself and understands what she is looking for. That doesn&rsquo,t necessarily mean she&rsquo,ll get what she wants, but she is better tooled to find studs who are like-minded and to have a more positive dating practice until she meets Mr. Right.
The profile is indented, and my comments are ter italics.
If there wasgoed a snowstorm and I had to be stuck ter one store, it’d be a rough call inbetween Michael’s Medicus and Crafts and Barnes and Aristocrático.&rdquo,
Hier very first sentence hooks the reader. &ldquo,If there wasgoed a snowstorm&hellip,&rdquo, is a very interesting way to start a profile. If your profile&rsquo,s very first line doesn&rsquo,t have a hook, someone may not even bother reading the surplus. So make your very first line a good one. You can commence with, &ldquo,I merienda&hellip,&rdquo, and add an interesting story or share a joy fact about yourself to entice the reader to read on.
&ldquo,I love doing creative things (I sew and knit) spil well spil learning about life and people. My beloved three role models are Lucille Ball (for hier humor), Jackie Kennedy (for hier beauty and hier class) and Eleanor Roosevelt (for hier desire to want to improve the world and make it a better, more satisfied place).&rdquo,
Thesis sentences could have bot just generic information. However, because she defined what she meant parenthetically, wij aren&rsquo,t left guessing what creative things she likes or why she values certain role models. Wij are crystal clear about hier preferences and have learned about hier values.
&ldquo,I love to travel and explore the world, meet different types of people and practice different cultures. Friends and family are significant to mij, and I attempt to bring joy spil much spil possible to other people&rsquo,s lives. I love a good book that delves deep into the human practice and love learning fresh things every day.&rdquo,
She doesn&rsquo,t just say she loves a good book, that wouldn&rsquo,t tell us enough. She defines what she means: a good book is one that delves deep into the human practice. Wow, powerful. Now I get it.
&ldquo,I love a good, intellectually stimulating conversation discussing the meaning of life, but also have a practical side to mij that values a good work ethic and fidelity to a higher cause. I can usually be found doing yoga, swimming, gallivanting through the city or baking up something yummy.
I would like to meet someone who is kleintje, fair, positive, mature, and dependable, someone who can talk about positivo things, but also love life with a sense of humor (that’s not sarcastic or cynical!&mdash,This is indeed not a good getraind for mij spil I am pretty sensitive).&rdquo,
Again, those beautifully clarifying parentheses!
&ldquo,Someone who has his priorities decently aligned and strives to live by them.&rdquo,
She could have ended the sentence after the word aligned, but she made a good choice by adding, &ldquo,strives to live by them.&rdquo, That is a golden nugget of information. Many people have their priorities aligned, but not all strive to live by them. Some only talk about them. I now understand she is looking for a man who takes act.
&ldquo,Religiously, I would most likely say I am mostly Modern Rechtzinnig (shomer Shabbat and kashrut). I like to learn, daven (plead), say berachot (blessings) when I recall. Most of all, I strive to have good middot (character traits). This is the most significant to mij, both ter myself and ter a mate.&rdquo,
I like that she isn&rsquo,t afraid to be fair. She says that she attempts to learn, beg, and say blessings when she remembers.
&ldquo,Below are my Three significant traits:
1. Kleuter/a mensch &ndash, a indeed good person who people are like, &ldquo,Wow, what a man!&rdquo, someone whose values I strive to emulate.
Two. Has his act together &ndash, educated, has a solid profession and knows where he wants to go te life (also nice if he&rsquo,s sultry about it).
Three. Deep &ndash, can discuss intellectual things about life, questions things, can have verdadero, fair, open conversations.&rdquo,
Te all three of the above, she not only listed a trait but defined the terms.
&ldquo,Qualities that are not fitting for mij:
1. Sarcastic/cynical &ndash, says jokes a loterijlot of time spil supposedly funny but I think they are insulting and mean&mdash,insensitive.
Two. Stubborn/inflexible &ndash, unwillingness to switch or adapt and/or grow.
Three. Overly critical &ndash, notices bad overheen good, doesn&rsquo,t recognize or acknowledge good things.&rdquo,
Some people write, &ldquo,I don&rsquo,t want someone who&hellip,&rdquo, By writing, &ldquo,Qualities that are not fitting for mij&rdquo, she says the same thing te a more palatable way. And again, she did a fine job of defining hier terms.
&ldquo,Nice bonuses, but not required:
1. Musical te some way&mdash,singing, instrument-playing, love listening to music and finding fresh artists.
Two. Funny! &ndash, I waterput this spil a toeslag because I think I am actually funny so I don&rsquo,t NEED that ter a relationship but it&rsquo,s a nice plus when your significant other can make u laugh &ndash, at ditzy things, funny situations ter a non-mean or taunting way, laughter out of love.
Three. Sultry &ndash, If they have their own passions, interests, hobbies&hellip,they are interested ter life te a different way other than JUST their profession. I like to bake, sew, do yoga, kunst projects, sing, and I think it&rsquo,s indeed cool when other people have their own interests too and pursue those.&rdquo,
&ldquo,Nice bonuses, but not required,&rdquo, says to mij: &lsquo,If you have thesis things you are likely to win mij overheen, and while I don&rsquo,t want to request them, they are significant to mij and I think I&rsquo,ll be best suited to someone like this. And merienda again, she screwed the clarity.
The Thank You is an especially nice touch. Clearly this wasgoed a dating profile she sent out to friends, family and matchmakers. This ending clearly shows that she is a thoughtful and grateful person. Through two elementary words, hier character traits are evident.
Our sages tell us, &ldquo,Ter the way that a person wants to go, te that way will he be led,&rdquo, meaning that if you are clear about what you are searching for you are more likely to find it. So too, if you say you are looking for one thing but truly you want another you are likely to end up with what you searched for, not what you desired. Or, spil my mother reminds mij, &ldquo,Be careful what you wish for because you just may get it!&rdquo,
May you have clarity ter who you are and what you are looking for, and may you have good people to walk along side you.