My Practice with a Stalker

Cari Jean is a freelance writer and author. Hier inspiring memoir &quot,Having Faith&quot, is available on Amazon. She resides te North Dakota.

I met him at a collegium party. He wasgoed very quiet and didn’t say much until he commenced drinking. Then he would become the life of the party by singing Def Leppard songs word for word. “Rockin’ Rodney” everyone called him.

He eventually moved ter with my brother. Whenever I spotted him, I felt sorry for him. He wasgoed a loner whom all the ladies disregarded. Except for mij. Like I said, I felt sorry for him. I talked to him and wij became friends, sort of. A collegium classmate of mine wasgoed from his hometown. I asked if she knew him and she told mij he wasgoed strange and ter high schoolgebouw he wasgoed considered a verdadero weirdo. I thought that wasgoed kleintje of mean.

Eventually, my brother graduated from collegium so I indeed didn’t have any reason to make the 50-mile drive anymore to visit him. I left behind all about Rodney, but it soon became apparent he hadn’t forgotten mij.

A Creepy Reunion

It wasgoed a cold, blustery day te January and my shift at work had ultimately ended. It wasgoed dark te the parking lotsbestemming. When I ultimately got to my car, I got te and began it up. I had to get back out to get the frost and snow off of my windshield. That’s when I noticed him. He wasgoed sitting there, not too far away te his pickup. He startled mij and I felt a tingly sensation down my spine. It wasn’t from the cold.

He called out to mij and told mij I looked different, more ladylike, or something like that. It had bot about a year since I had last seen him. I asked if he lived ter Fargo and he told mij no, he had moved back huis. He determined to make the three-hour drive just to see mij, despite the ugly weather. I wasgoed getting more creeped out by the minute.

I don’t know what else I said. I just got into my car and drove huis. I kept looking back to see if he wasgoed following mij. When I got huis and looked around, he wasgoed nowhere to be seen.

What is Stalking?

According to the U.S. Department of Justice Office for Victims of Crime (OVC), stalking refers to repeated harassing or menacing behavior by an individual, such spil:

  • following a person
  • appearing at a person’s huis or place of business
  • making harassing phone calls
  • leaving written messages or objects
  • vandalizing a person’s property.

Strange Happenings

I began to recount conversations I had with Rodney when he and my brother lived together. The times he called mij and said things like he wasgoed moving to South Carolina for work and that I should stir with him. The time he sent mij Black Hills gold jewelry for my bday (which I zometeen pawned off). At the time, I thought he wasgoed just being funny or being a friend. My roomy used to taunt mij that he wasgoed te love with mij. I suppose I should have cut off communication with him but I wasgoed just too nice.

After the parking loterijlot incident, things got truly strange. He obviously knew where I lived because a duo of times he showcased up at the apartment when I wasn’t huis asking my roommates where I wasgoed. They began to get creeped out spil well.

Then something indeed strange happened. I lived with three other ladies and our apartment wasgoed actually the upper level of a house. My then-boyfriend and his roomy lived on the main level. One night, I wasgoed at my bf[‘s sitting on the couch with the windows opened behind us. Wij talked about Rodney and my ex called him certain names. The next day, Rodney called mij and asked why wij called him those names. He had bot outside under the window listening to our conversation.

The Threat

From time to time I would see Rodney ter his pickup across the street from where I lived. I attempted to disregard him, thinking he wasgoed harmless. Weird but harmless.

Then one day my ex called and told mij Rodney had followed him to work and threatened to hurt him. Spil soon spil Chris got huis, he got out his hunting rifle. It wasgoed visible he had taken the threat earnestly.

The phone calls from Rodney enhanced. This wasgoed before caller ID so I never knew if it wasgoed him calling or not. Spil soon spil I realized it wasgoed him, I would drape up the phone. He wasgoed persistent however and would attempt to call back several times via the day. It wasgoed beyond frustrating for both mij and my friends.

Restraining Order

During this entire time, I always thought Rodney would eventually just go away and leave mij alone. When this didn’t emerge to be the case, wij got the police involved. Wij told them about the parking lotsbestemming incident, the threat and the never-ending phone calls. They told mij that every time he called I wasgoed supposed to write it down te a journal and if I everzwijn talked to him that I needed to write down every word. Eventually wij were able to waterput a restraining order against Rodney.

Ultimately, Rodney left mij alone. Evidently he went back huis and rumor had it he had gone crazy one day, ransacking his parents’ huis and ending up on the roof with a crowbar menacing his dad. Zometeen I heard he wasgoed admitted to the psyche ward at the state hospital.

The entire ordeal wasgoed emotionally draining and I wasgoed so grateful to know he wasgoed waterput away somewhere. Presently, I have no idea where he is. I can only hope he got the help he so despairingly needed.

If you think you are being stalked:

  • Opstopping a complaint with the law enforcement
  • Document all incidents
  • Get a restraining or no-contact order through the clerk of courts

Some Facts about Stalking 1

  • 6.6 million people are stalked each year te the United States.
  • The majority of stalking victims are stalked by someone they know.
  • 1 ter six women are stalked to the point they feel their life is te danger
  • 1 te Four women report being a victim of stalking te their lifetime
  • 1 ter 13 dudes report being a victim of stalking ter their lifetime
  • Many victims report being stalked through the use of some form of technology (such spil e-mail or instant messaging).
  • 46% of stalking victims fear not knowing what will toebijten next.
  • 29% of stalking victims fear the stalking will never zekering.
  • 1 ter 7 stalking victims budge spil a result of their victimization.
  • Almost 1/Three of stalkers have stalked before
  • 78% of stalkers use more than one treatment
  • 11% of stalking victims have bot stalked five years or more
  • 1 ter Five female victims experienced being stalked inbetween 11 and 17 years old.

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