Don’t Go to Office Parties
This suggestion is tegenstoot to what the experts te such matters say. I am not writing spil an experienced ter such matters. If you are a company executive then this article is not meant for you. Albeit spil a manager it may help you understand why some people stay away from office parties.
It&rsquo,s not worth the risk
вЂњAccording to business etiquette experienced Hilka Klinkenberg, the cardinal rule is to reminisce that no matter how festive the occasion, it’s still about business. Don’t fall off the prompt track to success or risk bruising your professional reputation ter one night of inadvertent blunders.вЂќ[i]
What would you consider is worth the risk of bruising your career or your professional reputation? A party doesn’t seem to rise to the level of taking such a risk. Don’t write off your spouse’s criticism of your social behavior or things you say to others. Your spouse might be humorless and hypercritical but that is a dangerous assumption when an office party is involved. If your spouse regularly points out the social missteps you make accept the reality you will say or do something wrong at the office party. The switch sides is true if the company permits, or expects, you to bring your spouse. Do you truly want to schoolgebouw your spouse on office party etiquette?
Barbara Pachter, an etiquette pro and the author of “The Essentials of Business Etiquette” wrote “Don’t frown, slouch, cross arms, or yawn. You never know who might be observing you,”[ii] If this seems conocido it is most likely something your parents told you when you were 8 years old and they dragged you to a boring event.
A common lump of advice on office party etiquette is not to talk about hook-up, politics, religion, and don’t gossip about coworkers. It is an effortless rule to go after if you are going to talk to yourself all evening. Do you get drawn into political debates with your uncle at family gatherings? If so then why do you think someone at the office party won’t draw you te? Coworker gossip often commences, not finishes, with the end of the party. At work people often talk about a coworker behavior at the holiday party. If you attend the party you are very likely providing workplace gossips something to talk about.
Another chunk of advice is not to postbode photos of people engaged ter inappropriate behavior online. Good advice for you to go after but someone else might not have gotten the memo. If someone else takes a picture of a coworker behaving inappropriately and you’re ter the picture that makes you complicit. Have someone everzwijn taken a candid photo of you where you look ditzy or spil if you’re inebriated?
[i]Office Holiday Party Etiquette, by Susan Bryant, Monster Contributing Writer (http://career-advice.monster.com/in-the-office/workplace-issues/office-holiday-party-etiquette/article.aspx), accessed December 13, .
[ii]13 things you should never do at the office holiday party Jacquelyn Smith (http://www.businessinsider.com/etiquette-rules-for-the-office-holiday-party–12), accessed December 16, .
Still going to go
Some of you will still go to office parties. A web search of вЂњoffice party etiquetteвЂќ will yield numerous sites that have generally good advice on office party behavior. Sometimes the advice is conflicting and sometimes the advice doesn’t go far enough.
Barbara Patcher advises, “Don’t just talk business. Be up-to-date on current events and happenings ter your community. Read the newspaper, your online news sites, news magazines, company publications, and your professional journals,”[i] The idea is to not just talk shop and not to only talk to people who work ter your section. You can’t talk about hookup, politics, or religion so what is there to talk about? Will you talk about the street light they are going to install on State Street? Talking about the latest astronomical discovery may rente some but bore others. A fresh method of arc welding might be interesting to people te your section, but the people te accounting might not find it arousing. A good conversation topic is professional sports. Even people who aren’t interested would accept your rente. That is assuming you know about the sport. Telling you think the Washington Nationals will strike the Fresh York Mets by Three touchdowns will not go well. It’s alright if you don’t think that joke is funny but if you don’t get the punch line avoid talking about sports.
Good advice is to assume people will see, hear, and reminisce everything you do. Better advice is people will see, hear, and reminisce just enough to make you look bad. Robin Abrahams advises, вЂњ[G]et something like a rum and Coke or gin and tonic for your very first drink, then stick to plain Coke or tonic after that. This way no one will know how much you’re not drinking.вЂќ[ii] That’s good advice for staying sober but will others at the party know those drinks you’re downing like sodawater are sodawater? Avoid flirting, good advice. If you spend a lotsbestemming of one on one time with someone others may assume you’re flirting or something more serious. At the office party three isn’t a crowd, four isn’t too many, and five is undoubtedly permitted.
Don’t drink. That’s excellent advice some of you won’t go after no matter how many articles you read on office party etiquette. If there is a chance you’ll drink too much make plans before the party. Never drive if your blood licor level is possibly overheen the procesal limit. Using a cab service is good. Having your spouse druppel you off and pick you up has some advantages:
- Getting a rail huis because you didn’t drive there is better than getting a rail because you are unfit to drive.
- You can arrange a pick up time so you can leave before you are likely to get inebriated and stupid.
- You don’t have the problem of retrieving your car the next day.
Office party etiquette says you should thank the host and party coordinator. If you think you might drink too much project to give your thanks the next day. A drunken person providing thanks doesn’t make a good impression.
[i] 13 things you should never do at the office holiday party Jacquelyn Smith (http://www.businessinsider.com/etiquette-rules-for-the-office-holiday-party–12), accessed December 16, .
[ii] Office Holiday Party Etiquette (http://www.boston.com/bostonworks/galleries/holiday_parties1206?pg=Two), accessed December 16, .
Non-attendance Philosophy and Etiquette
The company is paying for the party but so are you. The company can give employees money rather than throw a party. If the company doesn’t give a party it can keep the money and increase its profit margin. This and other cost saving measures could make it a better working environment via the year.
If someone tells you the party is embarking just say вЂњthank you.вЂќ If someone asks if you are going to the party just say вЂњno.вЂќ Do not attempt to justify your decision. They should respect your decision. If the party starts during work hours do not leave work early unless you are going to take leave. If you have enough leave time consider taking leave the day of the party. If the party is a pot luck consider bringing a voorkant dish anyway. Someone is not likely to make a comment about you bringing a cheap dish to a pot luck you don’t attend. Anyone who does will demonstrate themselves a idiot. If they are having a collection to pay for the food contribute.
A reason often given for attending the office party is because it is a вЂњtime to network and schmooze with people at the party who can influence your career.вЂќ[i] Would you want to enhance your career this way or by being a dedicated and efficient employee? Would you have any respect for someone who attempts to enhance their career through an office party? Should you have respect for a manager who advances someone’s career based on what happened at an office party?